Couples Therapy

Maybe it's about the dishes, or maybe it's about who initiates plans, or maybe you can't even remember what it's technically about anymore. But it feels familiar, and you both leave it feeling more distant instead of closer.

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Or maybe it's quieter than that. No blowups, just less. Less talking, less touching base, less of the ease that used to be there.

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Either way, you don't need a relationship in crisis to benefit from couples therapy. Some of the most effective work happens with couples who are doing fine and want to understand each other better before small things calcify into big ones.

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What brings couples into therapy

• The same argument on repeat, just with a different trigger each time

• One or both partners feeling unheard, or like they're explaining themselves without landing

• Communication that's turned into scorekeeping, or gone silent instead

• A big transition, a move, a new baby, a career change, that's put pressure on the relationship

• Rebuilding trust after a rupture

• Wanting to get ahead of problems before they become entrenched, not just fix what's already broken

• Getting married and wanting to build strong habits before the wedding, not after

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How I work with couples

I use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to help you both see the patterns you're stuck in, the predictable ways a conversation goes sideways, the assumptions you're each making about what the other means. Once you can see the pattern, you can start to interrupt it together instead of separately.

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I also bring in Hakomi Somatic work, because a lot of what happens between partners isn't really about the words. It's tone, timing, the tension in the room before anyone's said anything. Slowing down enough to notice that shifts what's possible in the conversation.

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Communication is usually at the center of what I'm helping couples build, not just talking more, but talking in a way where you both actually feel met. I draw on the Gottman Method for this, well-researched tools for how couples argue, repair and stay connected, alongside the CBT and somatic work. For a lot of couples, that's the whole difference between a fight that resolves and one that just goes quiet until next time.

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Ready to talk?

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Licensed in CA (In-person and Telehealth) and CO (Telehealth only)