Kealy Spring, LMFT #93512
What Is Hakomi Therapy?
Sometimes you can think your way around a problem a hundred times and still feel stuck. That's usually a sign the pattern isn't just in your head, it's in your body too. Hakomi is a mindfulness-based, body-centered form of psychotherapy that works with exactly that: the automatic beliefs and reactions that live below conscious thought, often showing up as tension, posture, or a felt sense in the body before they ever become words.
How Hakomi Works
Hakomi slows things down. Instead of just talking about a problem, we bring gentle, present-moment awareness to what's happening in your body and mind as you talk about it, noticing a tightening in your chest, a held breath, the urge to look away. These small, often unconscious signals point to core beliefs that were formed early and have been running quietly in the background ever since.
The work isn't about analyzing these patterns intellectually. It's about creating small, safe experiments in the moment that let you experience something different than what your nervous system expects, which is often what allows a belief to actually shift, rather than just being understood.
The Science Behind It
This isn't just a therapeutic philosophy, it reflects how the brain and nervous system actually process stress and experience.
A lot of what drives anxiety, self-criticism, and stuck patterns doesn't originate in the thinking part of the brain (the prefrontal cortex). It originates in the limbic system, the brain's emotional and threat-detection center, and gets carried out through the autonomic nervous system, the network that governs your body's automatic fight, flight, or freeze responses. This is why a pattern can feel completely illogical and still be incredibly hard to talk yourself out of: it was never a logical process to begin with.
Talk-based approaches are highly effective at engaging the prefrontal cortex by helping you understand a pattern, name it, and reframe it. But the limbic system and nervous system often don't respond to insight alone; they respond to experience. Somatic approaches like Hakomi work by engaging the body directly, noticing sensation, tension, and automatic reactions in the moment, which gives the nervous system a felt, embodied experience of safety or change, rather than just an intellectual one. Over time, this is often what allows a long-standing pattern to actually loosen, rather than just being understood more clearly.
How I Use Hakomi Alongside CBT
My work integrates Hakomi with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). CBT is excellent at identifying and interrupting the thought patterns that fuel anxiety and stress. In my approach, thoughts and behaviors tend to be the most workable entry points for change, feelings are usually the last piece to shift, since they respond more to lived experience than to reasoning alone. Hakomi gives us a way to work with that felt, body-based layer directly, so the emotional shift isn't left to happen on its own.
In practice, this might look like:
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Noticing what happens in your body when a familiar anxious thought arises, rather than just examining the thought itself
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Slowing down a reaction enough to find the belief underneath it, often something like "I have to earn my worth" or "It's not safe to need help"
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Testing out small, different ways of being in the moment, so change happens experientially
This combination is especially useful for the perfectionism, imposter syndrome, and anxiety patterns I work with most, since those patterns are rarely just cognitive. They're often held in the body long before they show up as a thought.
Is Hakomi Right for You?
You don't need any prior experience with somatic or mindfulness-based work to benefit from Hakomi. If you've done therapy before and felt like you understood your patterns intellectually but couldn't quite shift them, Hakomi is often the missing piece.
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Licensed in California (in-person & telehealth) and Colorado (telehealth only)